Rear View Mirror
Here is a little story for you…
Driving, driving can be something fun but sometimes it can be something scarey too. There is something called the "Rear view mirror". When we drive, we tend to look back at it a lot, see if the car we overtook is chasing up, see if there are any cops behind us or maybe just checking to make sure no crazy drivers is ramming onto the back of our car.
Often, we worry too much about whats behind us and somehow fail to pay attention to what we are approaching, let it be another car, let it be a traffic light or a crossing. As much as we know that we have to look forward, as much as we know that we should pay attention on whats coming rather then what we just went past, most people never do that, most people get a bit too caught up with the car behind. Someday, someday.. we will crash into the car infront of us, crash so badly just because we did not notice it coming we did not see it stop we did not see the light turn red but rather we were looking at cars coming from the rear.
There is this saying "You don't spend your time driving forward by looking at the rear view mirror" So simply said. Why focus on something thats so insignificant when there is a bigger picture there is something more important that lies ahead of you.
Let go of the past, whats done is done and in life there is no "Rewind" button unlike the movie Click. In life there are things that we've done that we would regret for the rest of our living life. So, let those mistakes and failure be our lesson, let them be our lesson to start again… This time more wisely.
Our purpose in life is to be happy, there is no point digging out the past and grief about things that does not even exists anymore. Its not who you were and its not who you are now that really matters, its who you going and want to become in the future that matters.
Be who you want to be, don't limit yourself to whatever you think you have, dont limit yourself to what other think of you. BECAUSE.. If you argue with limitation, they will be yours. Limitation is very generous, if you argue with them, I guarantee you they will be yours..
I love this saying.. "You aim for what you want, If you dont get it, you dont get it. If you dont aim for it, you will NEVER get it."
Kenneth
April 27th, 2007 at 10:37 pm
my dear kenneth
were you meant to post your thing up twice? i read it again to be sure and i’m kinda confused, hahaha XD
April 28th, 2007 at 1:08 am
my apology
i thot it looked abit longer then i thot 
but yeh.. didcha like it 
kinda came up with it.. in a way
April 28th, 2007 at 6:18 pm
ABSOLUTELY LOVE IT!
April 28th, 2007 at 7:07 pm
arh. a fellow analogist.
(that is so a word. because i say so. uh huh.)
you’ve got good analogies, boy.
and call it coincidence or not, i remember reading something about limitations the night before. can’t remember where exactly though, darnit.
April 28th, 2007 at 7:27 pm
Limitation.. like it says thr, if you argue with it, it will be yours
Limitation is the barrier u put in place for yourself so if you ever fail you wont fall that badly but what people do not understand is that those barriers will knock u down each time u get close to it, so rather then getting knocked off they will be better off building the right mindset (which is building a safety net below them) and try to climb as high or go as high as possible without any limitation (its like the ceiling isnt it :P)
why limit yourself to what you can have or achieve? why limit yourself to being who others want you to be. Have faith in yourself, your gut feeling is usually the most accurate. Dont let others influence how you do things and how you think (to a certain extend)
Its such a big world out there, explore, expand your knowledge, reach out.. head towards your ultimate destiny
April 29th, 2007 at 9:39 pm
is that the second installment?! wooowheee!
but limits can provide us with what’s reasonable and what’s not. and boundaries are necessarily sometimes, to provide perspective on situations. we can’t all just jump up and do whatever the hell we want. sure, we’d like to. but there’s morals and other people’s feelings to consider.
it would be selfish and shortsighted of us to not consider what is within our moral capacity to do the things we want to do.
but that’s a whole other ball game - not quite in the same context as what you are trying to say, but i thought i’d bring it up anyway, since you put limits in such a bad light.
: D
: )
April 29th, 2007 at 9:40 pm
they’re there to ‘guide’ us. : )
April 29th, 2007 at 10:17 pm
Imo theres far too much reading there… but heres some more.
“there is no point digging out the past and grief about things that does not even exists anymore”.
You are wrong though. “Those who do not learn from their mistakes are doomed to repeat them”. Anyone who refuses to acknowledge and remember (i.e. dig up) their past is only trying to escape some grim reality that they cannot face.
Its just as important to keep your eye on the car behind you as the path in front of you.
What you have done in the past does matter. It is our experiences that shape who we are and what we are. There are just so many quotes i can pop in here…
“You have to embrace risk to make progress, you need progress to build experiences, and experience brings success.”
“It takes experience to understand. Thus all quests for knowledge, for understanding, must be quests for experience.”
“Experience is the name we give our failures, and our success is the sum of those failures.”
Anyone who tells you that your future is more important than your past is misleading you. No matter what you have yet to accomplish, what you have to achieve, or yet to fail to achieve, your past is the most important thing you have. It is the only thing you possess that is yours and yours alone. It is the only thing you have that cannot be taken away from you. It is unique.
Some people say time is cyclical. Im not going to say i agree or disagree with this idea, even though it would explain a lot of things for myself personally… But if this was the case everything that will happen already has, and thus everything we have yet to accomplish is in the past.
I see a lots of “The Secret” in what you say. Whether or not it is true is not what im questioning here, but do you ever consider that perhaps you have been lead to a conclusion that you never would have come to otherwise?
It is important to draw your own conclusions from the world around you, and not just simply regurgitate the same themes over and over, as has become a disturbingly recurring theme im starting to see (not just from you).
“Our purpose in life is to be happy”. That is your purpose. Imo everyone chooses their own purpose in life, consciously or not. I do agree though, and ive never heard that concept spoken more clearly than in the saying;
“Happiness is the ultimate gauge of success. If you are truly happy then you are successful. If you are successful, but not happy, then it is not success that you have, it is merely the illusion of success.”
Theres some food for thought.
My 2c anyway…
April 30th, 2007 at 12:26 am
i did not dig tht up from the secret actually, didnt think it was part of the secret until u told me. I got the idea out when i was reading a car magazine ( believe it or not)
maybe its engraved into me now or whatever but i do believe what i just said. i do wanna do wht i just said.. maybe its a good idea to see ur past mistakes but if u look @ it too much u will end up being your mistake all over again.
if u get wht i mean
April 30th, 2007 at 9:07 am
oh forgot to “reply” to s.
Well I see where u r coming from
and i hv to agree if your goals are not realistic and not ecological 
(hmm not safe to others, yourself or the environment) then its a pretty bad goal/dream.
Otherwise if it does not harm anyone or hurt anyone’s feeling then by all means dont limit yourself to what u have now, set your goals slightly higher then you think you can achieve, that case if you ever fail (lets hope not) you’d be around what you expected urself to be anyway..
I know people will not agree with the last thing i just said but i guess thats call a FALL BACK
May 3rd, 2007 at 8:45 pm
ryan! this is not a lit forum! no need to back up all your arguements with quotes!
: D
nah. kidding. i quite like them. your quotes. not lit. : P
read something interesting today from my textbook -SHOCKHORROR: SHE READS HER TEXTBOOKS! FOR ONCE! HALLELUJAH!- that we shouldn’t say that our experiences shape who we are (this is where i disagreed with them) but rather it is our personality that shapes our lifestyles. it’s how we choose to react to situations that determine how we live. or something like that.
after a “wtf” silence for a few minutes, i kind of got it. well, what i understand from it anyway.
our personality, summed up into five traits by psychoanalysists called the Big Five (neuroticism, extroversion, openness, agreeableness, conscientiousness), influences our decisions in life choices but our experiences play just as important a role in these choices.
oh wait. i got it all wrong. just flipped back and i realised that it wasn’t trying to say anything. rather, asks us to “ask not how life’s experiences change personality; ask instead how personality shapes lives” (McCrae & Costa, 2003).
all those reminders on referencing. finally lodged itself in my head. neh.
mmm. now i think it’s time to start that group assignment! woo.
May 3rd, 2007 at 9:30 pm
damn it guys lol this sounds so much like an essay..
1st the quote now the REFERENCING?! who is going to get you into trouble if you plagiaries? rofl
May 5th, 2007 at 10:05 pm
the Plagiarism Police?